Phil Blog

I’m going to be a Dad.

It’s super weird. My wife is literally growing a person… Sometime in the next 10 weeks-ish, we’ll be parents of a little boy who we will care for and nurture for years to come. I read a thing about babies, and their development and why they cry and everything seems like the biggest deal ever. Because to them, EVERYTHING is the biggest deal ever.

Everything is new. Every bad thing they feel is literally the worst thing they’ve ever felt. Likewise, with the good! Absolutely every experience is a new thing, and they don't have the comprehension of being able to bring themselves out of the ‘now’ and see what might be.

Baby pooped their pants? “That’s uncomfortable, Imma cry.”

Clean nappy? “I’m good.”

Feelings of hunger? “I’m hurting and I don’t know why. Imma cry.”

Being fed and held by their parent. “I’m good.”

Something preventing them from sleeping? “I don't know what this feeling is, but I don't like it. Imma cry.”

Swaddled, lying down and toasty warm. “I’m good… For now…”

They experience joy, pain, discomfort, laughter, happiness, tiredness, comfort and a plethora of other positive and negative experiences that sum up life as a baby. And they experience it all in the present.

Eventually they learn, though, that if they cry, Mum or Dad will be there. That whatever situation/experience they’re going through will be fixed by these ‘Parents’ and that they’ll start feeling better. Except of course when things don’t...

We’re taught that God is like a Parent, a good parent who knows what’s best for us and is there whenever we cry out. But sometimes we cry out, and there isn’t a response. Sometimes we cry out, and things don’t start getting better.

God knows that sometimes we need to just cry. He also knows exactly what’s going on in our situation, and while there appears to be no response, I believe God is working in the background, quietly but surely.

Romans 8:28 gives us this promise; “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Much the same way that I am going to take care of this child of mine, I know that God will take care of us. In the darkness, in the light, in the good times and the bad. He knows when our ‘nappies’ are full and need changing, and when we need to be held and comforted.